I’m faced with a pull from two sides: I regularly hear from one group of parishioners that they find the noise of chatter before Mass distracting and even damaging to their spiritual growth. If I talk about silence, I hear from (or are gossiped about by) other parishioners as making the church “unfriendly.” I know there’s no pleasing everybody, and there’s some truth in both perspectives (except the gossip, which is toxic and sinful). So how can we encourage what Christ prayed for at the Last Supper, unity among his disciples?
Can we agree together that quiet catching up with one another in conversation is acceptable as people gather? (After all, especially for seniors, church may be their only chance to meet face-to-face during the week.) But can we also agree together that, at a certain time before Mass begins — say, five minutes — the church goes quiet so people can prepare in silence to meet Christ in the Gospel and Eucharist?
Five minutes before the scheduled time for beginning the Mass, the reader makes an announcement asking for silence to prepare for Mass. At that time, I’d ask that all conversation stop. (Ministers who have necessary preparations to make should respect this by moving conversation into the lobby or sacristy, and keeping it as unobtrusive as possible.)
I know that many people find silence “empty” and uncomfortable. Let me say a word about that. First, there’s no denying some part of the discomfort. We meet our deeper selves — our consciences, our fears, our hopes, the Word of God within us — only when we’re silent, and most normal human beings flee from that encounter rather than encourage it. But there’s an unnecessary degree of discomfort because we don’t know anything that can make silence useful for our spiritual growth. So here are a few things to do with that five minutes before Mass:
These are too many things to do; choose one, and experiment with how it changes your experience at Mass. In every case, recognize that your seriousness about your spiritual life is bound to have a good effect on the other people you worship with. Just as conversation can distract and keep people from praying, silent attention opens the gates to God’s grace. Make the observing of the five minutes of silence before Mass part of your regular routine — and perhaps add some silence each day as well. Until next week, peace.